We have a natural inclination to want to get things right. It's so rewarding to our egos when things go well because it means we're good, we're right, we win.
The idea that we've messed up or that we're facing tough times is enough to weigh heavy on our hearts. It's so painful for our egos to think we are wrong. It can quickly spiral us into self shame and hatred if we feel we aren't doing something quite right.
Unlike so many of the external factors that fill our world, our mind-body-spirit is not always so easy to "get right." Whether we're suffering emotionally or physically, we must be healed, but how?
The ego once again wants to get things right, and wants it right now. What therapy, what diet, what medication, what mindset is the best? What will be the fix? What will get us from where we are, to where we want to be?
Well, there simply is no perfect path to healing, and there's no guarantee any one thing will offer relief. The path out of illness can look very different for different people, while still completely effective in each case. The common denominator is the intention to feel better.
All disease is the result of isolation. The act of reaching out, connecting, and asking for help is the most important part of the intention to heal. What exactly the reaching out looks like is less important.
Some people reach out to psychiatrists, some reach out to energy healers, some reach out to friends and family, some reach out to self help books, some reach out to God. Some people find something that works right away, while others are on a very long path to healing. Even if the direction in which you reach doesn't heal you, the fact that you reached and you'll keep reaching is what matters.
I encourage my patients to seek out the treatments and methods which they feel most comfortable and in line with, because those are the ones that will resonate the most with them. Some paths to healing carry heavy stigma and judgement, but that's just the ego's way of trying to get things right again, don't let it stop you from feeling better.
As a mentor of mine once said, "medicine is what works." It could look like a pill or it could look like the processing of trauma and deep, hurtful feelings. It could happen in a second or it can take a lifetime.
What's important is the desire to feel better. Even during dark times, even when we're feeling our worst, even when our ego beats us up for not getting it "right," healing is always possible, if you want it.